THE WEDDING
SATURDAY | 10.11.2025
**** UPDATED TIME ****
2:45 IN THE AFTERNOON
PRIVATE ESTATE WINERY
SANTA ROSA, CALIFORNIA
Please note that guest parking will be off-site.
Shuttle transportation will be provided to and from the venue for your convenience.
Parking will open at 1:45 PM at:
Hope Chapel Santa Rosa
5680 Sonoma Hwy, Santa Rosa, CA 95409
Shuttles will begin transporting guests to the venue at 2:00 PM.
To arrive on time for the Wedding Ceremony, please plan to board the shuttle no later than 2:25 PM.
TEA CEREMONY
LỄ VU QUY
FRIDAY | 10.10.2025
1 O'CLOCK IN THE AFTERNOON
PRIVATE ESTATE WINERY
SANTA ROSA, CALIFORNIA
Please note that guest parking will be off-site.
Shuttle transportation will be provided to and from the venue for your convenience.
Parking will open at 11:50 AM at:
Hope Chapel Santa Rosa
5680 Sonoma Hwy, Santa Rosa, CA 95409
Shuttles will begin transporting guests to the venue at 12:00 PM.
To arrive on time for the Tea Ceremony, please plan to board the shuttle no later than 12:40 PM.
WHAT HAPPENS DURING THE TEA CEREMONY?
Here’s a general flow of events, though modern versions (like ours) may be adapted:
1. THE PROCESSION
The groom’s family arrives at the bride’s home, bringing symbolic gifts – like tea, wine, fruits, pastries and jewelry. The groom’s family will enter in order of seniority, starting with the elders, the groom himself and finally the gift carriers. The gifts are exchanged from the groom’s side to the bride’s side of the family. The bride herself is not present yet.
2. THE INTRODUCTION
The two families formally introduce themselves. A master of ceremonies (usually an elder or respected family member) leads everyone through the ritual. After the initial greetings, the dowry will be unwrapped by the bride’s family. Once approved, the mother of the bride shall lead the bride to meet the groom and his family.
3. THE ANCESTRAL TRIBUTE
The couple offers tea, flowers, and incense to the family altar, honoring deceased ancestors and inviting them to bless the marriage.
4. SERVING TEA TO ELDERS
The bride and groom serve tea to their parents and close family members, beginning with the eldest.
5. GIFT EXCHANGE
Family members give the couple gifts, such as red envelopes containing money, to symbolizing good luck and prosperity. Furthermore, family members bestow words of wisdom and blessings on the couple’s marriage.
6. PHOTOS AND CELEBRATION
After formalities, everyone gathers for family photos, food and celebration!
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QUESTIONS & ANSWERS
WHAT'S THE DRESS CODE?
Semi-formal attire.
For women, think cocktail dresses, midi dresses, dressy skirts, or tailored jumpsuits paired with elegant shoes. For men, a suit or blazer with dress pants and a button-down shirt is perfect. Ties are optional but welcome. This isn’t a black-tie event, so no tuxedos or floor-length gowns needed.
Please see related search for clarification of attire:
WILL THE CEREMONY AND RECEPTION BE INDOORS OR OUTDOORS?
Our entire celebration will take place outdoors, surrounded by nature. Semi-formal attire, but please consider comfortable footwear and bring a light layer for the evening.
CAN I BRING MY CHILDREN?
As much as we adore your little ones, we've decided to keep our wedding a mostly adults-only celebration, with a few exceptions for close family members.
If your children are invited, their names will be listed on your invitation. We hope this allows all of our guests (parents included!) to relax, celebrate and enjoy the evening together.
CAN I BRING A PLUS-ONE?
We're so excited to celebrate with our closest friends and family! In keeping our wedding intimate, we're only able to accommodate the guests formally listed on your invitation. If a plus-one is included, you'll see their name on the invite.
We truly appreciate your understanding!
CAN I TAKE PHOTOS DURING THE CEREMONY?
We kindly ask that there are no phones and cameras during our tea and wedding ceremonies. We've hired professional photographers to capture every special moment, and we'd love for everyone to be fully present with us. No screens, no distractions, and no one blocking the aisle for that perfect shot.
Don't worry, you'll be able to relive it all through beautiful photos we'll happily share afterward!
WHAT TIME SHOULD I ARRIVE?
Please arrive 45 minutes prior to the event, as there will be shuttles taking you to the venue.
Please also refer to the ‘Wedding’ and ‘Tea Ceremony’ sections above for specific details.