Nhi + Ruben

THE WEDDING

SATURDAY | 10.11.2025

**** UPDATED TIME ****
2:45 IN THE AFTERNOON

PRIVATE ESTATE WINERY
SANTA ROSA, CALIFORNIA



Please note that guest parking will be off-site.
Shuttle transportation will be provided to and from the venue for your convenience.

Parking will open at 1:45 PM at:
Hope Chapel Santa Rosa
5680 Sonoma Hwy, Santa Rosa, CA 95409

Shuttles will begin transporting guests to the venue at 2:00 PM.

To arrive on time for the Wedding Ceremony, please plan to board the shuttle no later than 2:25 PM.

TEA CEREMONY
LỄ VU QUY

FRIDAY | 10.10.2025
1 O'CLOCK IN THE AFTERNOON


PRIVATE ESTATE WINERY
SANTA ROSA, CALIFORNIA


Please note that guest parking will be off-site.
Shuttle transportation will be provided to and from the venue for your convenience.

Parking will open at 11:50 AM at:
Hope Chapel Santa Rosa
5680 Sonoma Hwy, Santa Rosa, CA 95409

Shuttles will begin transporting guests to the venue at 12:00 PM.

To arrive on time for the Tea Ceremony, please plan to board the shuttle no later than 12:40 PM.

WHAT HAPPENS DURING THE TEA CEREMONY?

Here’s a general flow of events, though modern versions (like ours) may be adapted:

1. THE PROCESSION

The groom’s family arrives at the bride’s home, bringing symbolic gifts – like tea, wine, fruits, pastries and jewelry. The groom’s family will enter in order of seniority, starting with the elders, the groom himself and finally the gift carriers. The gifts are exchanged from the groom’s side to the bride’s side of the family. The bride herself is not present yet.

2. THE INTRODUCTION

The two families formally introduce themselves. A master of ceremonies (usually an elder or respected family member) leads everyone through the ritual. After the initial greetings, the dowry will be unwrapped by the bride’s family. Once approved, the mother of the bride shall lead the bride to meet the groom and his family.

3. THE ANCESTRAL TRIBUTE

The couple offers tea, flowers, and incense to the family altar, honoring deceased ancestors and inviting them to bless the marriage.

4. SERVING TEA TO ELDERS

The bride and groom serve tea to their parents and close family members, beginning with the eldest.

5. GIFT EXCHANGE

Family members give the couple gifts, such as red envelopes containing money, to symbolizing good luck and prosperity. Furthermore, family members bestow words of wisdom and blessings on the couple’s marriage.

6. PHOTOS AND CELEBRATION

After formalities, everyone gathers for family photos, food and celebration!

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QUESTIONS & ANSWERS

WHAT'S THE DRESS CODE?

Semi-formal attire.

For women, think cocktail dresses, midi dresses, dressy skirts, or tailored jumpsuits paired with elegant shoes. For men, a suit or blazer with dress pants and a button-down shirt is perfect. Ties are optional but welcome. This isn’t a black-tie event, so no tuxedos or floor-length gowns needed.

Please see related search for clarification of attire:

WILL THE CEREMONY AND RECEPTION BE INDOORS OR OUTDOORS?

Our entire celebration will take place outdoors, surrounded by nature. Semi-formal attire, but please consider comfortable footwear and bring a light layer for the evening.

CAN I BRING MY CHILDREN?

As much as we adore your little ones, we've decided to keep our wedding a mostly adults-only celebration, with a few exceptions for close family members.

If your children are invited, their names will be listed on your invitation. We hope this allows all of our guests (parents included!) to relax, celebrate and enjoy the evening together.

CAN I BRING A PLUS-ONE?

We're so excited to celebrate with our closest friends and family! In keeping our wedding intimate, we're only able to accommodate the guests formally listed on your invitation. If a plus-one is included, you'll see their name on the invite.

We truly appreciate your understanding!

CAN I TAKE PHOTOS DURING THE CEREMONY?

We kindly ask that there are no phones and cameras during our tea and wedding ceremonies. We've hired professional photographers to capture every special moment, and we'd love for everyone to be fully present with us. No screens, no distractions, and no one blocking the aisle for that perfect shot.

Don't worry, you'll be able to relive it all through beautiful photos we'll happily share afterward!

WHAT TIME SHOULD I ARRIVE?

Please arrive 45 minutes prior to the event, as there will be shuttles taking you to the venue.


Please also refer to the ‘Wedding’ and ‘Tea Ceremony’ sections above for specific details.

WHERE SHOULD I PARK?

Parking will be available at our designated off-site location:
5680 Sonoma Hwy, Santa Rosa, CA 95409 (map link below)

From there, complimentary shuttles will transport guests to and from the venue throughout the event. You're also welcome to leave your car overnight if needed.

Please refer to the ‘Wedding’ and ‘Tea Ceremony’ sections above for specific details.

For guests traveling with car seats or booster seats, we understand that shuttle travel may not be ideal. In these cases, you may park directly at the venue. Please reach out to Nhi or Ruben so we can make arrangements and ensure your arrival goes smoothly.

WHATS THE WEATHER TYPICALLY LIKE THIS TIME OF YEAR?

In Santa Rosa, in mid-October, you can typically expect mild weather with the average high temperatures around 76°F (24°C) and lows of 60°F (16°C). It's likely to be dry, with only a small chance of rain. The sky will probably be clear or partly cloudy, offering plenty of sunshine.

Rain or shine, we'll have plans to keep everyone comfortable no matter the forecast, so come ready to celebrate with us in any weather.

WHAT IF I HAVE DIETARY RESTRICTIONS?

We want all of our guests to enjoy the meal! If you have any dietary restrictions or allergies, please let us know by noting it on your RSVP or reaching out to Nhi or Ruben directly. We'll do our best to accommodate you.

WILL THERE BE DRINKS?

Absolutely! We'll be serving red and white wine, sparkling wine, beer and a selection of fun signature cocktails to keep the celebration flowing. Come thirsty!